Beyond Grindr: Matchmaking in the Gay Marriage Era

We could frequent gay bars, bathhouses, the men’s room in the basement of a local department store, highway rest stops, the steam room at the gym, certain notorious parks, and that was about it. Unfortunately, each of these venues was fraught with a certain amount of danger. In fact, arrests, public embarrassment and gay bashings were a semi-regular hazard of being gay. And regardless of whether we chose to keep our activities underground in an effort to avoid these problems which was the almost universal survival tactic until the early s or to live our lives out loud which became more common after the Stonewall uprising in and the American Psychiatric Association’s removal of homosexuality from its list of mental illnesses in , our venues for meeting potential dates remained the same. I mean, we couldn’t exactly search for partners at church socials, work events, and neighborhood gatherings like our straight brethren, could we? So we sucked it up and faced the occasional issues that came with meeting in gay hotspots, or we resigned ourselves to life as a single person. Sadly, that’s pretty much the way life went for gay men until the Internet came along.

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Born and raised north of Boston, Alexandra joined H4M with a Bachelor of Science in Business Administration focused in the areas of event planning, management, and marketing. A happily married straight ally, and mother of two daughters, Alexandra has hands-on experience in the realm of dating, romance, and finding that lifelong partner.

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For more than 5 years, @H4M staffers have been #committedtoserve our #clients & the #LGBT community. A previous staffer, “Tammy, you and H4M Matchmaking will always remain in my heart. A previous staffer, “Tammy, you and H4M Matchmaking will always remain in my heart.

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At H4M, it’s our goal to help gay and lesbian professionals find fulfilling, long-term relationships through private, offline matchmaking. No matter where you live, we can introduce you to like-minded singles who share your interests, standards, and lifestyle.

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Tammy’s matchmaking service is not just about matchmaking, it is about learning things about yourself as much as a potential : Founder & President at H4M .

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H4M Certified Matchmakers reinforce the company’s culture to “Lead with Love.” In serving singles in the LGBT community, we find it important to first lead with giving to the greater gay community.

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